Posts tagged #self-love

Tips to Become Happier and More Empowered

Photo by hannah grace on Unsplash

Photo by hannah grace on Unsplash

In our search for happiness, many people look to other people and not within ourselves. Many feel that things like money, a better job with more power, a more stable or affectionate relationship, a busier social life, more attention to our social media posts etc. will make them happy. In reality, to find true contentment you must look inside yourself and learn to be your own best friend. That means you have to trust, love, and care for yourself just as you do others in your life whom you care deeply about.

Following are steps that you can incorporate into your life that will help you to feel more empowered and happy about and within yourself.

Begin to lift yourself up, not put yourself down. If you don’t like something about yourself, work to change it. If you can’t change it, simply accept it. Don’t beat yourself with negative self-talk. You’re not likely to change for the better when you fill yourself with negative thoughts.

Give yourself positive rewards. When you do something that you are proud of give yourself a small reward. Try not to wait for others to praise you because you may grow resentful if the praise doesn’t come. Pat your own back, it is a great feeling that can stay with you for a long time.

Forgive yourself. I doubt that you would keep scolding a child over and over for making a mistake so don’t do that to yourself. Give yourself the gift of forgiveness when you make a mistake. After that, work to figure out what lesson you can learn, and use it to make better choices the next time around.

Enjoy your successes. Most people can remember all of the details of depressing, painful or even embarrassing events that happened many years ago. What if you did the same thing with all of your wins? Try to remember all of the triumphs and accomplishments that you’ve made and keep that memory with you and think about it as often as it becalms you.

Always remember to celebrate your wonderful qualities. You will soon discover that the more you love yourself, the more you will be able to give love to others - and the more others will be able to love you.

Posted on November 6, 2018 .

Self-Love September

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September is the beginning of a new school year for many people, and I encourage you to consider taking this month and making it a new chance to grow and learn by making it a month of self-love - the first semester in the School of You if you like :)

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The idea is that every day - all 30 of them - for the month,  you write down one reason why you love yourself. A positive attribute you possess that brings you pride, or should. You can write this down in your daytimer or journal,  calendar, or just on a piece of paper but I encourage you to write it down and not just input your self-love reasons on a cell phone because you will want to be able to access this page for a long time. From past experience, cellphones don't last as long as books do and this exercise is one that you should keep for as long as possible and refer to often. You could of course use technology however I still suggest printing the final product as a keepsake. 

By the end of the month you will have a list that should instill a sense of confidence and appreciation for yourself that perhaps was not there before, or not as strong. 

To help you here are some suggestions for qualities that you may possess and wish to add to your list of lovable characteristics:

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I offer these words because I would encourage you to think along the lines of who you are, what you stand for, how you move through your life as opposed to how long your hair is or how perky your derriere. As Antoine de Saint-Exupery said "what is essential is invisible to the eye." 

Never forget that who you are on in the inside is far more important that what you look like. When you realize that, you will experience a great sense of #empowerment.

 

Posted on September 1, 2018 .

Permission Granted

I came upon this beautiful poem while reading the book "Back to Joy", edited by June Cotner.
I hope you find it as inspirational and eloquent as I do. 
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Permission Granted 

 

Why is it that we never feel entitled,

To take care of ourselves,

When we most need care?

Even the storm takes care of itself,

Raining until there is no more rain,

Not asking anyone's permission,

To light up the sky, fill the gutters, and leak into the kitchen.

A storm has come into your life, wreaking havoc and chaos,

And you're the one needing permission?

You have it:

Permission to feel afraid, but not feel conquered by your fears,

Permission to feel overwhelmed, but not undone,

Permission to pause, shed a few tears, take a break,

Permission to sit with a cup of coffee and find the still centre of yourself -

In the eye of the storm -

where all your strength lies in waiting.

Storms come and pass, and you are stronger

because of them.

It's stormy now.

You have permission to feel the power of the storm,

and seek the shelter within yourself.

 

- Susan Koefod

Posted on August 2, 2018 .