In our search for happiness, many people look to other people and not within ourselves. Many feel that things like money, a better job with more power, a more stable or affectionate relationship, a busier social life, more attention to our social media posts etc. will make them happy. In reality, to find true contentment you must look inside yourself and learn to be your own best friend. That means you have to trust, love, and care for yourself just as you do others in your life whom you care deeply about.
Following are steps that you can incorporate into your life that will help you to feel more empowered and happy about and within yourself.
Begin to lift yourself up, not put yourself down. If you don’t like something about yourself, work to change it. If you can’t change it, simply accept it. Don’t beat yourself with negative self-talk. You’re not likely to change for the better when you fill yourself with negative thoughts.
Give yourself positive rewards. When you do something that you are proud of give yourself a small reward. Try not to wait for others to praise you because you may grow resentful if the praise doesn’t come. Pat your own back, it is a great feeling that can stay with you for a long time.
Forgive yourself. I doubt that you would keep scolding a child over and over for making a mistake so don’t do that to yourself. Give yourself the gift of forgiveness when you make a mistake. After that, work to figure out what lesson you can learn, and use it to make better choices the next time around.
Enjoy your successes. Most people can remember all of the details of depressing, painful or even embarrassing events that happened many years ago. What if you did the same thing with all of your wins? Try to remember all of the triumphs and accomplishments that you’ve made and keep that memory with you and think about it as often as it becalms you.
Always remember to celebrate your wonderful qualities. You will soon discover that the more you love yourself, the more you will be able to give love to others - and the more others will be able to love you.