Posts tagged #positive attitude

An Attitude of Gratitude

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Well, it is Thanksgiving again for us Canadians but anytime of the year is a good time to practice an attitude of gratitude.

William James said, "The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind. "

So many times people become discontent with their lives and surroundings and is it any wonder?  There is a whole industry set up to make us feel inadequate.  We are not thin enough, or not rich enough, or not hip enough because we are not buying the latest products on the market. The message rings loud and clear: We are not good enough!

How many times have you found yourself saying, if only _________  then I could be happy? The problem is that if we get caught up in this way of thinking we will never be happy because there is always something more we will think we need to complete our lives.

Paul Reid said, "Poverty is a state of mind often brought on by the neighbours new car. In other words, when we see our friends and neighbours acquiring things, we often feel poor because we cannot afford these luxuries.  But, in reality we are not poverty stricken, we only think we are poor." This state of mind is purely relative to whom you are comparing yourself to.  If you were to change your thinking and look at the homeless, then you would realize how truly rich you are.  You have a roof over your head, and food on the table. Okay, so maybe it is not your dream house and maybe you are eating peanut butter sandwiches and not caviar, but you are sheltered and fed.  Believe it or not, some people do not even have these basics. Be thankful for the comforts you do enjoy on a daily basis and try to remember not to take anything for granted.

Most people do not realize the benefits of gratitude. When we sit and think about all the things we want but don’t have we set ourselves up in a downward spiral of disappointment and negative thinking which can lead to overwork, and depression. Gratitude, on the other hand, lifts our spirits and gives us a clearer focus on life as it really is.  We will be content with what we have and therefore our attitude will bring us a spirit of peace and contentment.

You may say to yourself, but I don't have much!  Well then be thankful for the little things you do have.  Do you have a roof over your head?  Do you have someone who loves you?  Do you have someone you love?  Do you have food on your table? Do you have your health?  Do you have a job? Do you have a pillow to sleep on?...a blanket to keep warm? Do you have your sanity?  These may seem like small things but there is nothing small at all about good health, a nutritious meal, a warm bed, a lucid mind or the love of another human or even a pet. Just ask somebody who doesn’t have one of these things. And if you don’t have them all, you can still be grateful for the ones you do while you chase the ones you lack.  

Someone once said, If you haven't all the things you want, at least be grateful for the things you don't have that you wouldn't want. There is always something we can find to be grateful for. Be grateful for your health. Appreciate your ability to move and feel the wind in your hair and the grace of your own movements. 

Try not to let the shallowness and unreality of social media trick you into thinking that others are living a better life than you are. If you can recognize and savour each beautiful moment of your life - and I’m not saying that every moment is beautiful but I’m sure there are a few lovely moments each day - then you are wealthy beyond measure. You don’t and shouldn’t need others to validate your joy…doesn’t that actually detract from it?

I know this sounds simplistic and I know that there are always things that many of us truly need but if we start changing our attitudes and develop an attitude of gratitude then we will be in a better position to allow our positive thoughts to direct us in a way in which we can achieve more.

“You won’t be happy with more until you’re happy with what you’ve got.”
— Viki King

Gratitude is the first step in achieving the things you want to achieve in life.  

Let us make every effort to get rid of the negative thoughts that hinder our life's journey and learn to develop positive thoughts that will help us achieve our goals.  

Don't wait until Thanksgiving rolls around each year to be thankful.  Make it a point to develop in your daily life an attitude of Gratitude.

 

Happy February & Happy Feby

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2014 began badly for Feby and me. In the early morning hours of a snowy Sunday in January, while I was sleeping soundly in bed and dreaming of bigger and better ways to empower women in the coming months, some lost soul with nothing better to do but cause havoc and destruction swiftly disabled my website and twitter account. The reason? To stop female advancement. Imagine that? It seems my site lured his warped mind with it's promise of liberating women from ill-informed myths and taboos and talk straight about periods and all aspects of the menstrual cycle.

Well, no anti-feminist misfit is going to stop me!

In fact, I decided to make feby.com better than before. Like my mom always said - when life gives you lemons, make lemon aid. 

 

Welcome to the new and improved feby.com

As the new site was a necessity and not pre-planned, please forgive me it's simplicity. I'm no web developer but no thanks to mine who bailed on me in my hour of need I had to brave it unskilled and clueless.  The fact that you're reading this is thanks to the lovely people at SquareSpace and GoDaddy . Now that I'm here, alive and under control again on the world wide web, I imagine even better additions in the weeks and months to come....stay tuned.

 

P.S. - If there is one thing I've learned from this cyber-violation it's this; have different passwords for different accounts, make those passwords strong (special characters, combination of caps and lowercase and numbers), change those passwords at least once a year. Trust me on this. Good passwords are like sunscreen, they protect you.

Posted on January 31, 2014 .

Sisterhood is Powerful!

This post was originally published as a guest post for Aunt Ruby, a subscription-based company out of Chicago for menstrual care. " AuntRuby" has since closed up shop and now focuses on her bliss - photographing animals. 

Sisterhood is Powerful! is a popular feminist catchphrase. Itʼs a statement, a proclamation, a manifesto, a call to arms, and I love it because itʼs full of hope and possibility and strength. Itʼs saying “Imagine what we could do if we joined together instead of alienating one another?”

Sisterhood is Powerful! Itʼs an invitation to fight the good fight, by which I mean instead of a strong opposition we cultivate an impenetrable defense. Itʼs not bout hurting others but rather by helping, supporting, standing beside, encouraging, and challenging each other to stretch and further our reach and power,

Sisterhood is Powerful! plays on strength in numbers. No man is an island and no woman is a sisterhood; we need each other to exist and grow and thrive.

There are many types of sisterhoods in life. First, there is the traditional embodiment of a sibling. For those fortunate to have a sister, you know the intrinsic value of their company, opinions, guidance and wardrobe. Then there is the sisterhoods we forge ourselves with friends, those women who have our back (and whose back we have) and strive alongside us to be the best women we can possibly be and help us make sense and find our way in this crazy world. Subsequently in college there comes sororities and feminist groups, powerful manifestations of our need to collectively harness and utilize our voices and ideas and our power for the greater good. But sisterhood doesnʼt end there as I have happily discovered. I have been fortunate as a new female entrepreneur to join many groups of like-minded women in my city to gather, share ideas and network. These workshops have provided me with priceless opportunities and associations and boosted my desire to make a positive difference alongside my confidence and have confirmed to me that Sisterhood is Powerful!

Aunt Rubyʼs small business sisterhood is yet another demonstration of the potential of all involved to extend their reach and collectively exist to assist women. I want every woman entering womanhood to have a very clear idea of what is happening in her body at any given time in the cycle through the Female Empowerment Bracelet. Aunt Ruby wishes to ensure that her customers are always ready for that time of the month and she often includes treats that uplift and lighten the burden of being a woman. She includes words of wisdom in the form of hormonal horoscopes in every box and she includes some wonderful sweet treats, intimate grooming products, intoxicating elixirs for our bath, lovely teas and/or a portable pocket for gals who canʼt indulge their relaxation impulse and must go out and about.

Sisterhood is Powerful! applies to these women owned and operated businesses whose primary customers are women and whose primary mission is to help women live happier, more meaningful lives. We all would like to spend our days doing something weʼre passionate about and these sisters do just that and their passion comes from a place of empathy and inspiration and they provide helpful, empowering and loving services and products. These women have opted out of working for “the man” and instead taken it upon themselves to forge new and risky paths with the goal of becoming profitable and productive while providing quality products and services to enrich the lives of their customers. Why would any woman go to some big box store when they could support these small businesses and help realize that Sisterhood is Powerful!?

 

 

Posted on April 2, 2013 .