Posts tagged #confidence

Happy 2019

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Happy New Year! 2019 is here. Whoo hoo!

It’s time to start something new and trust in the magic of beginnings.

It’s time to really and truly and deeply and unconditionally love your own sweet self.

It’s time to have a love affair with your life.

It’s time to say goodbye to people and situations that hurt or hinder your happiness.

It’s time to embrace people who open their arms and their hearts and their homes to you.

It’s time to shine that special light you have inside of you and see how much you can illuminate the world.

Imagine a future where there are no limits on who you can become and what you can achieve. Each time you find yourself saying ‘but’ to the ideas you have for your vision, release yourself from your preconceived limits and give yourself permission to achieve your true potential.
— Domonique Bertolucci

You are pretty wonderful just the way you are and don’t need to go changing anything. Even though the new year seems an ideal time to make resolutions and intentions and all that jazz I hope you don’t feel obliged to do so. If you want to improve upon yourself, well by all means, but please don’t for a moment think that you have to change. Try and remember that confidence is contagious and self-esteem is sexy.

I sincerely hope you just live your best life, do what makes you happy and spread a little joy and sunshine to those less fortunate.

Let 2019 be your best year yet.

Posted on January 2, 2019 .

Self-Love September


September is the beginning of a new school year for many people, and I encourage you to consider taking this month and making it a new chance to grow and learn by making it a month of self-love - the first semester in the School of You if you like :)

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The idea is that every day - all 30 of them - for the month,  you write down one reason why you love yourself. A positive attribute you possess that brings you pride, or should. You can write this down in your daytimer or journal,  calendar, or just on a piece of paper but I encourage you to write it down and not just input your self-love reasons on a cell phone because you will want to be able to access this page for a long time. From past experience, cellphones don't last as long as books do and this exercise is one that you should keep for as long as possible and refer to often. You could of course use technology however I still suggest printing the final product as a keepsake. 

By the end of the month you will have a list that should instill a sense of confidence and appreciation for yourself that perhaps was not there before, or not as strong. 

To help you here are some suggestions for qualities that you may possess and wish to add to your list of lovable characteristics:


I offer these words because I would encourage you to think along the lines of who you are, what you stand for, how you move through your life as opposed to how long your hair is or how perky your derriere. As Antoine de Saint-Exupery said "what is essential is invisible to the eye." 

Never forget that who you are on in the inside is far more important that what you look like. When you realize that, you will experience a great sense of #empowerment.


Posted on September 1, 2018 .

17 Ways to Love Your Body in 2017

Loving yourself is an important aspect of happiness. It has been said many times that until you truly love yourself, you can never really love anybody else. And loving yourself means loving every part of you, your body included.

In today's world it is challenging to feel good about your body when there are so many images of what you should look like coming at you from every angle...magazines, television, social media, billboards etc. The models in these advertisements and posts invariably have been photoshopped and edited extensively and don't even look as good as their pictures and you would be doing yourself a favour by remembering that.

Other ways you can make 2017 the best one yet and develop a love of your own beautiful body are as follows:

1.  Be grateful for what your body can do. Find joy in the simple pleasures like walking, swimming, dancing, running, yoga or any other physical movement that gets your blood pumping,  brings colour to your cheeks and releasing endorphins. Acknowledge that evеrу day your body carries you closer to your dreams. Celebrate all the amazing things your body does for you - moving, breathing, laughing, dreaming, and so on.

2. Don't compare yourself to others. Women come in all different shapes and sizes and there is no ideal one. Nobody is perfect and you need to learn to focus on your good qualities. Close dоwn those voices in your hеаd thаt tеll уоu your body iѕ nоt "right" or thаt you are less than. Remember that you are enough. You can оvеrроwеr nеgаtivе thоughtѕ with positive оnеѕ. The nеxt timе уоu ѕtаrt to tеаr yourself dоwn, help уоurѕеlf bасk up with a fеw ԛuiсk аffirmаtiоnѕ thаt wоrk fоr уоu. Something along the lines of "You are beautiful", "You're capable of amazing things", "You are strong and truthful and have a killer smile" or "Believe in yourself and you can do unbelievable things". Say it. Mean it. Own it. 

3. Accept a compliment with grace. Make it a rule that whenever someone pays you a compliment on your appearance, never to argue with them and to take it at face value. After all, they were not forced to compliment you on the way you looked, were they? Simply saying "thank you" after receiving a compliment shows poise and confidence.  

4. Nourish your body with moderate portions of healthy foods full of vitamins and minerals that your body needs to function at its optimum. Splurge on a new cookbook and relish the tantalizing pictures and succulent recipes and try making a few that appeal the most to you. Take your time choosing which one to make and then picking the food up at the market. In my experience,  nothing tastes better than home cooking that is made with love and the feeling of mastering a recipe is uplifting and satisfying.  

5. Get enough sleep. This is perhaps the single most important thing you can do to keep your body and mind operating at their peak. Make your bedroom a sanctuary for peace. Try leaving your phone in the other room when you go to bed. Reading a chapter of an intriguing book or informative magazine is my surefire method to catching the sleep train relatively quickly and easily. Televisions and telephones make poor bedfellows. Check out this informative article on how stress affects your sleep. 

6. Move. Exercise is important to keep joints, limbs, muscles, the cardiovascular system, and your skin all working properly, not to mention your mood and energy level. It's not necessary to have a fancy gym membership (although that certainly is nice); taking your dog for a daily walk, starting a home yoga practice, or lifting weights made of old milk jugs and doing sit-ups an push-ups, squats and planks in your living room will all help to release endorphins and keep you trim and healthy. 

7. Reduce stress. When stress is reduced, you feel better...calmer and more in control.  Here are 23 science-backed ways to reduce stress right now.  

8. Monitor your inner dialogue.Remind yourself thаt "genuine bеаutу" iѕ nоt ѕimрlу skin dеер. Whеn уоu feel gооd аbоut уоurѕеlf and whо you аrе, уоu саrrу yourself with a ѕеnѕе оf соnfidеnсе, ѕеlf-ассерtаnсе, and openness that makes уоu bеаutiful whеthеr you lооk likе a ѕuреrmоdеl or not. Bеаutу is a ѕtаtе оf mind, not a ѕtаtе оf your bоdу.

9. Get your hair wet. Too many women on the beach or by the pool opt out of enjoying the water because it'll mess up their hair. Don't let appearances stop you from delighting in a little fun. Life is too short. 

10. Wear clothes that you like, are comfortable and make you feel good. Wоrk with уоur bоdу, nоt аgаinѕt it. Don't be a fashion victim wearing items because they are on trend if they don't highlight your assets. Use the opportunity that clothes give to express your personality. Take pleasure in the feeling of the fabric against your skin and the colours that suit your eyes and complexion or just make you happy.  

11. Sit up straight! Good posture can make a big difference in how you look and feel. Seriously, it can improve your concentration and thinking ability, your breathing and your body alignment which allows all your organs to function as intended. Good posture also makes you look taller, slimmer, more powerful and you will undoubtedly feel confident. As if those weren't enough reasons, good posture can also reduce neck and back pain.

12. Accept you body type. We are all different and yet you are the only you, and you are perfect at it. Walk with confidence and flaunt what you've got. 

13. Look at yourself as a whole individual. When you look at yourself in the mirror, make a conscious effort to not focus on a particular body part, but take in the whole reflection of the glorious person you are.  

14. Dо ѕоmеthing niсе for уоurѕеlf- - ѕоmеthing thаt lets уоur bоdу knоw you аррrесiаtе it. Tаkе a bubblе shower, make timе fоr a nар, locate a quiet рlасе оutѕidе tо unwind.

15. Mеditаtе - Contemplation iѕ an extraordinarily powerful tооl for cleaning up unhеlрful thоught сусlеѕ. However long you can manage- ten minutes, five minutes or one doesn't matter as much as the fact that you do it. Juѕt ѕit, close уоur eyes аnd relax. On the off chance that you wаnt уоu can inhale on a body ассерtаnсе аffirmаtiоn ѕuсh аѕ "I lоvе аnd ассерt my bоdу juѕt аѕ it iѕ right nоw." 

16. Discover a рurроѕе - Pеорlе whо hаvе рurроѕе аrе too buѕу completing ѕtuff to wоrrу about hоw they look. In thе end, сrеаtivе expression, раѕѕiоnаtе child rearing, powerful initiative and developing thе best-goddamn-tomatoes-in-the-area is fаr mоrе fulfilling than looking gооd in аn оutfit.

17. Smile.   It's a proven fact that the simple act of smiling makes you feel good. Here are 15 of the best and free health benefits of smiling.