11 Great Reasons Why Smiling Makes Us More Successful

Photo by Bruce Dixon on Unsplash

Photo by Bruce Dixon on Unsplash

When you realize the true benefits that everyone gains from a smile it is surprising that more people don’t spend a greater majority of their time sharing them :)

  1. Our smile shows other people that we are friendly. If a stranger approached you and gained eye contact with you and then treated you to a broad smile, you will have a fairly good idea that they are being friendly and certainly mean you no harm. By contrast, we would find it far more difficult to trust a stranger that wears a scowl or unfriendly facial expression.

  2. A smile can make people happy. When someone treats you to a smile, even a stranger, human nature persuades us to smile back. For that brief moment, we can enjoy a flash of positive communication without saying a word. As you walk through a crowded area such as a main street, you can do this a hundred times in a very short period of time. When you smile at someone who is not smiling and they smile back, well you have brought a moment of happiness into their lives which, who knows, could last all day.

  3. Smiling is infectious. When you spend a lot of time in the company of someone who smiles a lot you will soon discover that their smile starts to wear off on you. It is hard not to return a smile; most of us do it at a subliminal level without thinking.

  4. Smiling can make you popular. Which type of people do you prefer? A person that has a tired and listless face; an expression that may reflect their inner thoughts of boredom and worry? Or, would you prefer someone who is always smiling and shows that they have an enthusiastic passion for life. I think for the majority of us the choice would be obvious!

  5. Smiling can help you make new friends. I think its safe to say that few of us would choose a miserable person for a friend as we would much rather be around somebody who is bubbly, happy and positive.

  6. A smile is usually returned. When someone smiles back at you it makes you feel good inside. You will have a just made a short but positive communication and possibly the first step in the process of getting to know someone better or even making a new friend. At the bare minimum you will have shared an uplifting moment together.

  7. Smiling makes you happy and positive on the inside. Have you ever noticed that you instantly feel better when you smile, even if at the beginning of the facial upturn your heart is not in it? Chances are by the end of your smile, you will feel enthusiasm and drive and a warm glow.

  8. A smile makes you more attractive. Not only when somebody looks at you but if you answer your phone with a smile on your face your voice automatically - and magically - has a smile in it and seems friendlier and more welcoming. Try it. The difference is uncanny.

  9. Smiling makes your more memorable to others. You are three times more likely to remember a person who is smiling than someone who has a negative or neutral expression. I guess you have to ask yourself if you want to be memorable or easily forgotten.

  10. Smiling is good for your health. Smiling releases stress, worry and tension and helps makes whatever task you are doing much less of a chore and more of a joy.

  11. The effects of smiling can last for hours. Whatever problems or challenges you have in life, smiling temporarily puts them on hold. For a brief moment your problems decrease and your positivity increases, resulting in more potential and power to advance and improve your life.


Lastly: Smiling is FREE!

You are never going to run short of smiles and will always have enough to go around. When you weigh up the positive points of smiling it is a no brainer decision to do far more smiling and share them with as many people as possible.

Posted on January 8, 2019 .

Happy 2019

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Happy New Year! 2019 is here. Whoo hoo!

It’s time to start something new and trust in the magic of beginnings.

It’s time to really and truly and deeply and unconditionally love your own sweet self.

It’s time to have a love affair with your life.

It’s time to say goodbye to people and situations that hurt or hinder your happiness.

It’s time to embrace people who open their arms and their hearts and their homes to you.

It’s time to shine that special light you have inside of you and see how much you can illuminate the world.

Imagine a future where there are no limits on who you can become and what you can achieve. Each time you find yourself saying ‘but’ to the ideas you have for your vision, release yourself from your preconceived limits and give yourself permission to achieve your true potential.
— Domonique Bertolucci

You are pretty wonderful just the way you are and don’t need to go changing anything. Even though the new year seems an ideal time to make resolutions and intentions and all that jazz I hope you don’t feel obliged to do so. If you want to improve upon yourself, well by all means, but please don’t for a moment think that you have to change. Try and remember that confidence is contagious and self-esteem is sexy.

I sincerely hope you just live your best life, do what makes you happy and spread a little joy and sunshine to those less fortunate.

Let 2019 be your best year yet.

Posted on January 2, 2019 .

Sayonara 2018 Sankalpa 2019


Well, another year has come and gone and we’re still around. You and me and Feby.

Feby is going into her 8th year and I honestly am not sure how much longer I can keep up the faith.

I always had 100% faith in Feby and the positive influence it can have over a woman’s life. I still do. I guess if I’m being honest, I’ve lost the faith in myself. I don’t think I can do this anymore. The results are minimal and while I know that has tons to do with the effort, or lack thereof, that I put in just thought I would be much further along than I am right now. I thought I would have trouble keeping up with demand. Sadly, that has never been the case and creating demand has been a long climb to each small success, or so it seems and I am losing energy for the endeavour.

It might have something to do with the menopause. As my own menstrual cycle is winding down and losing strength in my life, so is my connection to the bracelet. It makes me very sad. I wish I had done this sooner or that the world had stayed low tech for just a little while longer. Feby would have hit the big time in the 70’s what with the popularity of gimmicks like the pet rock and hula hoop, not to mention that it was the peak of free love


still I have hope and faith. I truly just want to help young women. Giving up on Feby feels to me like giving up on the idea that teenage girls need to know exactly what is happening in their body all month long and I can never give up on that because girls deserve to know the truth about their bodies irregardless of religion or wealth or circumstance. It should be a basic fundamental female right. It should be demanded. We are failing our youth if we do not provide adequate information for understanding and controlling ones own body and fertility. That prospect is still very much hit and miss depending on the characters in your story; your mom, your female relatives, your friends along with every magazine and website you read habitually. It’s far too random to be taken with any sense of security. If not now, when? If not me, who?

So I’ll give it another year. IF you’re reading this, you can help me. Spread the word. PLEASE. Share the cause. Forward our webpage or a social media post that resonated with you or made you laugh or made you groan (I own my cheesiness proudly.)

Better yet - buy a couple or a couple of dozen bracelets yourself. Donate some to anywhere you choose - your local YMCA or a women’s shelter or homeless shelter of your choosing. Make sure to include a full address and adequate shipping fees and it’s as easy as can be to ensure some innocent young women are being educated.

Know in your heart that you are empowering a woman with each bracelet that is gifted. You are spending the time and effort to let her know that her body and her future and her life have meaning and value and that it is up to nobody but her to direct the course of it.

So while I am not sorry to say goodbye to 2018, I am pleased with so very many things that happened throughout the year including:

I did enjoy a lot of special days - I visited London and Paris and Bermuda this year, all with people I love and who love me. We were all in good health and fine weather and amongst friendly people and left with some happy memories that will last a lifetime.

I read 31 books and joined a book club. I hope to read more in 2019.

I watched 29 movies at the local theatre and not many more at home (I’m not much of a netflixer but I will admit to playing the Hallmark Christmas movies all month long while I wrapped gifts and wrote Christmas cards. )


I learned a new skill - well still learning - calligraphy.

.I really enjoy it. It’s a little break in a digital world to go pen and ink and paper in hand but the control and purposefulness of my strokes appeases some whirring within and centres me still.

I’m getting a lot of emails and instagram stories about setting intentions for 2019 and it seems like a wise idea. Begin a new year with a clear vision of what you hope to accomplish and be deliberate and thoughtful about it. Some influencers reference it at Sankalpa. Suzan Colón refers to one in her book ‘Yoga Mind’ as “equal parts promise, resolution, and intention, yet more powerful than any of them.”

My sankalpa for 2019 is to create more and consume less and by that I mean in all the ways that we consume...content and calories and cash. Likewise, I would like to create more in all the ways…content and calories and cash plus connections, cohesion and confidence.

Hopefully this creativity will allow Feby to prosper and empower more woman across the globe.

How about you? Do you have a Sankalpa for 2019? Please share in the comments below.

Stay safe as you say goodbye to 2018 and hello to 2019.



Posted on December 31, 2018 .