To Whom It May Concern


Isn’t it nice knowing

that you can make a difference simply by choosing your words wisely?

The other day I was writing the literary equivalent of a cold call; a letter to someone I didn’t know nor did I even know their name. It was basically to whomever opened it at the organization I was interested in collaborating with.

Dear Sir/Madam I started.

I wrote the letter and was proud of the content and tone of all of it except that first line; Dear Sir or Madam.

Really Alison! Is that the best you can do in this day and age of openness, acceptance and tolerance when it comes to gender? Why would I, a woman with (or so I thought) a solid handle of what’s what in our wonderful, prideful world, address a letter to either and only a sir or madam? I thoroughly perplex myself sometimes. I don’t realize how robotic certain words and actions are and so I repeat them unthinkingly and end up humiliating myself without even being aware. Dumb. I don’t like being dumb.

These words - dear Sir/Madam - I decided, must go and NEVER COME BACK. They represent an obsolete greeting for a dead generation. A generation so overrun by rules and dogma that too much joy and love has been suffocated before they ever got a chance to LIVE. Today, NOW, this is the new world - a world that values joy and love like never before , a world made up of colourful souls and we must not revert to black and white. Love is love is love. No matter the colour, no matter the gender - love itself is what matters. Besides, nothing is black and white anymore, except zebras, pianos and some of the greatest movies ever made. No longer do we live in a world where letters are opened solely by sirs and madams.

This past spring I shared some bracelets with the Legislative Women’s Caucus of New York State and the woman I was dealing with there ended her correspondence with her full name and underneath her name (she/her/hers) with an addendum at the bottom of the email

Why I put my pronouns on my email signature and you should too.

I was intrigued and clicked on the link and got an education. I hope you click and learn too and we can all say Thank you Ms. Humbert.

So I went back to that letter I was composing and changed the opening line to…

To Whom It May Concern,

That’s really all that matters anyways isn’t it? That the right person opens it and that can be a man or a woman or someone who identifies differently and that’s perfectly alright and wonderful.

Just yesterday Lady Gaga advised her fans to ask others “what is your pronoun?” According to this article by Yahoo News in New Zealand she went on to say she has felt "misunderstood in different ways" over the years and "learned" that asking the simple question can make a big difference to someone's happiness. Isn’t it nice knowing that you can make a difference to someone’s happiness simply by choosing your words wisely? Shouldn’t we all use our powers wisely and aren’t words mighty powerful tools of humanity? Think before we speak and all that.

Just curious, how do you address cold call letters and/or do you identify your gender within your correspondence?

Hope you are all enjoying this wonderful June weather and being kind to everyone, yourself included.




Posted on June 26, 2019 .

The Power of Parsley

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Has anybody ever tried drinking parsley tea to induce menstruation?

My eldest daughter did recently, for the first time in her life, based on advice from a friend and guess what? Within 2 hours she was bleeding. That seemed surprisingly fast. *Esmerelda said she wasn’t due until Friday and here it was, Sunday night at 8.

Is this a little bit of magic or is is mere coincidence? Do you know? Do you have any experience with this, either first person on through the sisterhood?

I hadn’t heard this particular old wive’s tale until *Esmerelda asked me if I had, figuring if anybody would know about the miracle of parsley as it relates to a woman’s period, it would be me; a woman who’s business revolves around menstruation.

Nope. I had not an inkling of the power within this herb from the Mediterranean region. Right now thanks to the capricious and sometimes bitchy nature of Mother Nature, I can’t even experiment with it personally. How will I know if it works when I don’t know when my next period will come, or even if it will. Menopause is having a moment in my life.

So, I’m just sharing the very tiny anecdote and hope that should you find cause to try it, remember me, and share your findings.

Just get some dried parsley, place in a meshy tea infuser and let sit in boiled water for 3 to 5 minutes. *Esmerelda added a hit of lemon juice but disclaimer, she adds a hit of lemon juice to a LOT of stuff. Even so, she said it tasted pretty putrid but then again, this isn’t a tea one makes for enjoyment but rather for the benefits therein.

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To reiterate, less than 120 minutes after drinking this foul concoction *Esmerelda’s period arrived. For once, it was welcomed with a smile of satisfaction.

Tried or heard about a different means of inducing menstruation? Please do tell.

* My daughter’s name is NOT Esmerelda. Her name has been changed at her request.

Peace, Love & Parsley


Posted on June 15, 2019 .

Menstrual Hygiene Day 2019

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Tomorrow marks the 5th annual Menstrual Hygiene Day, also known as MHDay.

The ultimate goal is to create a world where no girl and women is limited because of her period. 

Throughout the world there is a lot of progress being made on numerous fronts including education, awareness and accessibility but much more still needs to be done. That is one of the many reasons why I’ll be attending this #MHDay event in Guelph, Ontario.

Anyone in the vicinity is invited to attend what is sure to be an empowering event.

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You can see more about the event here